Active reading is a skill that more people could develop.
I can think of, without trying, at least five occasions when I could have posted this in the last few years and I would have had people telling me that I was writing about a different thing every time. Or saying it was about a subject six months old.
I have posts that I've sat on waiting for things to blow over. But there's always a new thing, and those posts don't get made. I have a lot of posts that have never made it out because of trying to avoid the mob mindset.
What I'm really over is the arrogance of people telling me what I'm thinking when I write.
So... how dare you accuse me of writing about human interactions! :-P
I keep meaning to point the local goth community at the GSF article and asking readers to mentally substitute every occurrence of 'geek' with 'goth,' but I only ever remember when there's a recent event people will think I'm specifically referring to. Actually, this week might be a good time; there hasn't been a blow up in months..
Sigh. I would very much like to hug you in person.
I'm fine. I just keep repeating the mantra, "Stupid people are funny..."
They're funny dammit!
You only want to hug me because I'm hot, right?
Yup. It was the tripod comment that was the clincher tho.
I know. I eventually had to buy one to help avoid disappointment.
Deep breathes Danny, Deeeeeeep Breathes!
Deleted a long post because I think I was rambling and bitching too much.
Short version. Agreed with others, its never the "right" time, its always going to be the wrong time for someone.
People should be old enough to read a message, understand its on a personal journal and ranty and take the message *without* taking it as a personal insult.
...and if it did make them angry, they need to ask *themselves* why, and not immediately demand the rest of the intawebs do so for them.
The only thing to say is, of course, that you are absolutely right in what you have said.
And the morons who don't have the reading skills to comprehend what you said are not worth worrying about.
So don't worry about it. You are right, they are wrong. Keep on trucking!
If I had done what was assumed, for the reasons assumed, they'd be right to kick my arse.
As it was I was guilty of poor timing, but I could post it in six months and some people would always drag it back to current events.
What annoys me is the assumption that they know exactly what I'm on about, and won't admit that maybe my point was in fact the one I was making, not the one they credit me with.
There's an episode of B5 where a race is being wiped out by a disease that religious elements of the race is blaming on immorality. The 'moral' elements of the race lock themselves away and the disease virtually wipes them all out.
Everyone congratulated JMS on doing such a strong analogy about religion and AIDS. He got angry, said it wasn't about AIDS, and pointed out a bunch of major historical plagues and issues that were essentially the same problem, solution, and outcome.
I'm laughing. I'm laughing, not because what you said was funny, but because it's so true, and if I don't laugh, I'm sure as hell gonna cry.
So very very true.
Can I still sit on your lawn though????
I've told you, just because it's green, don't call my willy a lawn!
What is it about people that makes them think the whole word is about them?
I know! Arrogant bastards! It's all about me!
Egotist: A person of low taste, more interested in himself than in me.
Well at least you now know what the worst thing you have ever done is. :-)
You mean that post had nothing to do with the fact you haven't gotten me that copy of Spirits of the Air, Gremlins of the Clouds yet?
Well, if you say so...
Ironically, having no previous knowledge whatsoever of this Swancon situation, I read your post wondering if it was partially inspired by the little flail-post I made in my LJ just the day before. Then I read the comments...
Which just goes to show that there will always be multiple points of relevance, no matter when you make a statement like that. Mind you, it also goes to show how hard it is not to refer general statements to specific experiences, no matter how well they have been disclaimered.
At least you tried, hey?
I don't think anyone - no matter how good and ethical a life they try to lead - can avoid being vilified now and then. The irony, I fear, is that the more you try to be a good and ethical person, the more the vilification hurts.
I have a deep and abiding respect for you, and a big part of that is that you think about these issues and you post about them, even knowing some people will take your words the wrong way and that you might get hurt as a result. That, to me, is a very brave thing to do.