Didn't know about this, and there's no real off-stage thingy that has spurred it, beyond my grumpiness level having reached the point where I could write about this. This has been simmering away for years.
Of course the grumpiness and headache makes it very hard to write those thoughts coherently :)
I'm pretty much right with you RE: cookies and tit punching.
2009-05-14 11:39 am (UTC)
Nice post. Thank you. (Knowing absolutely nothing about any of the circumstances that provoked it, but it's still a damn good rant.)
The main thing that spurred it was just idly thinking about positive reinforcement, and how incredibly effective it is at training. It's been noted as being equally effective at training animals and humans.
From there I thought about the people I've seen get totally reamed over something small, and how I've watched them turn nasty about that subject, where previously they were simply apathetic.
That's not an effective result for anyone.
Thought like this have been brewing when I've been thinking about the online racism debate.
This wasn't about the racism debate, though naturally that is one of the many issues it can cover. And I know you knew that :)
I'm basically sick of seeing relatively good people who, based on their previous actions and posts, obviously believe in and actively support some of these important causes, and yet they have their every comment picked apart by people looking to trip them up.
And this is usually done by people who know them!
I'm also sick of everyone who doesn't understand a complex social problem being accused of being against it, or told that they can't understand it because of who they are.
The thing about any issue is that people need to be educated, not abused, told they're dumb, or that their life experience precludes empathy for another. Those reactions just mean that people who'd be willing to help, that would be willing to listen and try to learn, end up putting it in the too hard basket.
The short term thinking of world leaders shits me to tears. Do these people not care about what a world we're leaving for future generations?
Good rant. And not too far from a little rant I was having with a friend the other day, about how workplaces now seem to be *so* much about focussing on what people did poorly when it comes to the end of year appraisals and not acknowledgeing all the other frickin' brilliant stuff they've done. The 99-1 ratio. Who wants to go to work to be berated for the 1 thing they did poorly? And not the 99 things they did brilliantly?
Some workplaces, like a certain comic shop I used to work for, were always like that. People getting the job done right, rarely having that acknowledged but being told, "Now do it quicker."
Or like trying to tell the bosses again and again, that saying thank you to your staff for doing a good job was important, and getting the reply, "They get thanked every pay-day with a pay packet."
No, the pay packet is a legal and contractual obligation. Saying please and thank you to your staff is a social one.
Actually, the whole general kerfuffle that I'm reacting to smacks of, "See how easy it is?" syndrome. Someone is capable either through natural ability or years of experience, to do something quickly and accurately. And every time they are dealing with someone relatively new, or who has a different skill set, they keep harping at them and making the point that the task is incredibly easy, inferring that the person is either stupid, untalented, lazy, or all three.
Although, um, I think you might be mistaken by classifying this as a rant.
Far too much logic, content, and good examples for it to be a rant. :)
Good series of points, cheers - Dan
I am sorry, but I don't know much about this technomological stuff - I've accidentally posted an answer to aria flame twice, and I really wanted to say something in response to the cookies and tits comments.
What I wanted to say was this: traveling on the pt in Melbourne gives you good experience and refines your people watching skills.
Most people don't want the "there's a good doggie" routine, but by golly if someone goes out of their way for you they do 'expect' acknowledgement of at least a thankyou. Case in point while pregnant I always always always thanked people for offering their seat. No, it's not a huge heroic act, but in the context of being exhausted at the end of a working day it meant a lot. It was an opportunity to say - it means a lot, and usually being me, it's an opportunity to underline to all the rude people who didn't offer their seat (cause of course they were guiltily watching) that yes, it was a nice thing to do. (Ok, so I was using courtesy as a means of sticking my finger up at them - I am coloured grey.)
No, it's not a huge deal to say thankyou and to teach other people in the wider community that their deeds are watched. Maybe someone will pass on the thanks that wouldn't normally?
I am always amazed people don't get the please and thank you thing. Sometimes I will go out of my to say good morning to people. I like it, perhaps i do it for me, as much as them.