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Things New Parents Should Know # 11 - Crying [Sep. 4th, 2008|11:50 pm]
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Crying. Babies cry. It's how they train you to recognise their sound. It's their only way to express themselves. It's how they talk to you.

It can mean there's a problem, or discomfort, but it doesn't always mean that.

If your baby is crying, it doesn't mean you're doing anything wrong. It doesn't mean you're a bad parent. It doesn't mean bub's unhappy. It's not something that you always have to feel must be stopped, because sometimes you can't stop it. Sometimes, all you can do it put up with it, or try to offer the best comfort to your child you can.

However, if your baby cries every time you pick it up by its ears, you're doing it wrong.

[User Picture]From: stephbg
2008-09-04 03:08 pm (UTC)
I thought you were supposed to pick them up by the tail?
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[User Picture]From: ariaflame
2008-09-04 03:19 pm (UTC)
Only if you want to swing them.
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[User Picture]From: oothoona
2008-09-04 09:16 pm (UTC)
When can I come and see you three?
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[User Picture]From: king_espresso
2008-09-04 10:33 pm (UTC)
How should one pick up a child by the ears?
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[User Picture]From: termagent
2008-09-05 07:01 am (UTC)
I'm going to make an idiot of myself by responding seriously to a light-hearted post, but I do think they are unhappy when they cry, whether or not one can figure out why they are crying.

I often wonder how much of it is personal preferences for comfort, like preferring to be warmly dressed or liking the air on their skin, not liking to touch particular fabrics or having them around their necks, when they have no mechanism of communicating their preferences other than to cry when they are uncomfortable.

Imagine being unable to move properly or talk and having someone else be responsible for dressing, feeding and changing and entertaining you. You'd go mad if you got an itch in the middle of your back and they didn't work it out, or if you got a bit of reflux and your throat burned and they didn't get you a sip of water to wash the taste away. It's more of a miracle that they don't cry most of the time.
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[User Picture]From: pre_vet_girl
2008-09-07 12:24 pm (UTC)
Apparently my other half (when he was a baby) used to cry continually whenever they put him to bed. Eventually they figured out he was allergic to the mohair rug they were wrapping him in, poor thing, so he was itchy and his nose was running. It must be a bugger having no other way of communicating.
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