Naturally, the My Sexuality post is required reading for this quiz.
I'm trying to accurately reflect myself and the sorts of liasions I've had over the years, which means a poll simply listing sexual situations and asking if someone wanted to do me was never going to be an option.
I'm fine with intimacy at all sorts of levels with various different people. What feels right or comfortable varies from person to person, and changes over time. There are folks where I've had a more teacherly role, where the idea of things being done for me was never an option. There have been people where they wanted more but what I needed was less about sex than it was about needing to be close. I'm fine with casual nudity as well, though it takes me a while to stop automatically averting my eyes. So the concept of cuddling naked in bed, with no sex expected or needed, had to fit in there too.
So the poll tries to progress from just subjects to talk about, to levels of intimacy that are non-sexual like handshakes, building to the sexual, then on to actual sex questions. From there I'll probably also throw in a few things that can be incredibly caring/intimate/sensual, but not necessarily sexual, like showering together or massage.
A special thank you to my helpers in getting the poll together. You guys rock!
If, after the poll, you'd like to talk about any/all of this, just comment to that effect. Any other thoughts, comment as well. All comments will be screened.
As usual, I will only unscreen comments that finish with the word 'Yes'.
A Bunch of Very Important Points
- If you've only know me through livejournal and have been reading me for a week, or you've known me my whole life, you're welcome to do the poll. The longer you've known me, the more I'd really like you to do the poll.
- Guys! Yes, this poll is aimed squarely at the girls. I'm bi, but well... I'm super-picky with women and insanely picky when it comes to men. If you're male, I'd appreciate you only doing the poll if you have some level of interest in me from the physical/emotional viewpoint. If you're a guy and fancy me rotten, it's still a compliment! For the rest of you, feel free to only pick a few things, like talks, handshakes, hugs, etc., and ignore the rest. I just want to avoid having a bunch of blokes go through picking lots of negatives and buggering up the results. If I'm going to be firmly rejected, I'd like it to be from my preferred gender :)
- Anything you say in this poll will go no further than me. Only I can see your answers, so you can be honest.
- Pick only those things that appeal or feel right, and pick the answers that send the clearest message. Most of the questions have the option of picking multiple answers. Some also have answers that specifically say that what you picked is as far as you'd like to go, where you'd like to get to, etc. Make use of them where it feels appropriate.
- Don't be afraid to answer honestly in the negative, either. Remember, I assume people don't want to sleep with me, so you won't be telling me anything new. There's no point to doing the poll if you can't be honest. I'm not going to suddenly cease to be your friend or anything.
- Ladies, even if all your answers are going to be in the negative, do the poll anyway. Can't hurt! And at least you'll know I'm not gunna try and jump your bones!
- I don't consider any answer you give in this poll to be anything more than an indication of your feelings in the matter at the precise time you answered the question, in a safe environment, well away from me. If you say you want to shag me rotten, I am not going to start trying to push for it in real life, tell people or anything else.
- Similarly, it's worth pointing out that just because you may say you wish to have sex with me or do anything else with me, it doesn't mean it will ever happen, whether I want it to or not.
- If you have any worries about my suddenly trying to stick my tongue down your throat based on your answers, read the 100 Days post Inability to Make a Move. Face it, before you would get kissed, groped, or anything else, you'd probably need a loudhailer, a neon sign, and possibly to tattoo the words "Dude, she really wants you!" on my forehead.
- If you are in a relationship, I will not treat any postive answers as indications that you're wanting do me behind your partner's back, or as anything other than, were you in a situation that allowed for it (i.e. single, or in an open relationship), this might be something you'd like to try for.
- And please, if you have to answer anonymously because you have no LJ, post to comments to tell me who you were and give me an idea of some of your answers so I can track back. I think it's only fair that I know, since I am baring myself pretty openly here, and the point of this is to at the very least, break down some barriers. I will feel especially cheated if you admitted to liking me and I had no idea who you are.
This has been, without a doubt, the most potentially humiliating, hardest, most challenging post/poll I've done. It's taken me so far outside my comfort zone, it's not funny. Well... ok... it is funny, but only a bit.
I'm not doing this poll to pick up, though I'll admit, it's crossed my mind. I'm doing this out of sheer curiousity. I'm so insanely unable to pick-up/act-on even the most blatant signals, it'll be interesting to see who I've missed, even if it's just low level, like hugs. Most of us have wondered if there are people out there that fancy us that we didn't know about.
I also know for a fact that there's been women that liked me that thought I had no interest in them, when that certainly wasn't the case. This lets us get all the cards on the table.
If you've ever wanted to know if anyone actually fancied you, do the poll. If you've ever liked someone and wondered if they felt the same way, do the poll. If you've ever wanted to tell someone that you desire them, but haven't been able to, do the poll. And if you've ever worried that I fancied you and you wanted to send the clear message that it ain't gunna happen, do the poll :)
Even if I'm none of those things to you, it may give us something interesting to talk about one day.
Oh, a final note. If you actually know someone who likes or fancies me, tell them about the poll. Give us both a chance to find out where we stand :)
Remember, don't be nice, be honest!
Which of the following would you feel comfortable or like to talk with me about for a few hours?
Places where you'd be willing/happy to talk about the things above...
What level of physical contact would suit you for a hello/goodbye?
What level of contact while talking on couch?
Talking on / in bed?
What level of dress would you be comfortable in with me around?
What level of clothing would you be comfortable in me wearing around you?
Back on the couch, talking about 'stuff' - nothing too frenzied.
Back in Bed, close or cuddling.
Nearly there... So, let's not beat around the bush too much (so to speak).
Getting away from the directly sexual, and back to the more intimate... You don't have to have any intent to ever do these things with me, but tick those that reflect what you would be interested in...
So, the whole sex / cuddles thing with me and my posts...
My penis, like most, has a mind of its own. If we were sitting/laying around or cuddled up in a not-overly-sexual situation, and you realised I had an erection...
There are a few people here that are merely acquaintances or friends, some that I love as friends, a few that I am in love with, and a few that I am sexually attracted to. Given you've answered so many questions, and regardless of how you've answered, would you like to know the truth from my end?
So, how do you feel towards me?
If you have anything to add to that, this is the place to do it...
Has your interest in sex with me changed since I shaved off the beard?
Now, remembering that this is not binding in any way... Have you ever, at any time...
Want to add something to the above, here's where you can...
Those of you who have talked to me about personal matters / sex / relationships / etc... How good / helpful / interesting was the talk? 1 for least, 10 for best. Don't be kind, be honest...
A question for the small handful of you on here who have had sex with me... How do I rate? 1 for least, 10 for best. Don't be kind, be honest...
How did you feel about the My Sexuality post?
Second last question. How did you feel about this poll?
As a last word, if anyone wants the raw code for this poll, I still have it.